I can't keep up with it, tbh. How can you keep up? That's what I don't get, there are all these whispers and accusations and omg. I know where to go to keep up with the con "do not invite" lists, and some of the whisper networks for that, but I'm out of touch on which LARP whisper network to be in (there are so many), and then there are the transformative whisper networks, and publishing - and fandom intersects all these spaces, you have to pay attention to all of them.

I don't know any good answers, and I don't know any non-defamatory answers (non-slanderous, non-litigious, whatever), people do keep trying and I hold onto that sometimes, if nothing else.