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KJ ([personal profile] owlmoose) wrote2019-01-12 04:34 pm

Snowflake Challenge Day 12: Challenge Accepted

Day 12: Create your own challenge.

Here's my thought, and it's fairly simple on the surface, although harder for some than others, and it might take a little research to complete. But since my hope for 2019 is to see a more active Dreamwidth community, I think it's a worthwhile one:

Comment on a friending meme. Then read through the meme and find at least one person to add to your circle.

Where does the research come in? Finding the friending meme! There's usually at least one or two running, and it's been more of a thing lately with the recent migration from Tumblr, but I admit that it might be a challenge. Try searching interests, or browsing your network page, or checking out communities like [community profile] fandom_on_dw and [community profile] fandomcalendar. Or if you can't find one, create your own and promote it in the communities above! (And on that note, if anyone knows of and/or decides to start a Critical Role or Dragon Age friending meme, hit me up.) I've met some great people through friending memes, and I highly recommend participating whenever you can.
oldtoadwoman: Sam Winchester, Supernatural 14x17 (sticky note doodle)

friends

[personal profile] oldtoadwoman 2019-01-13 02:35 am (UTC)(link)
And add your friending policy to your profile or sticky post. Will you cheerfully add anyone to your Circle? Do you automatically reciprocate access? Do you never reciprocate access, but post all fannish things publicly anyway? Do you want others to introduce themselves first and then you'll decide? Is it a case-by-case basis?

Fans run the gamut from so extroverted they have no idea what boundaries are to so introverted they can barely receive an email without a panic attack. Sometimes I think I have a lot in common with someone, but for some reason I'm getting that "I'm very private, leave me alone" vibe from them so I don't interact... and it's always possible that person was just really shy and was dying to make friends and I missed the chance.
22degreehalo: Sailor Moon holding onto Fiore's arms, even as her transformation jewel is being ripped from her. (villain)

Re: friends

[personal profile] 22degreehalo 2019-01-13 03:30 am (UTC)(link)
> so introverted they can barely receive an email without a panic attack.

O-oof... I have to admit, I can relate to that;; I can send things pretty fine but somehow whenever I get a reply part of my brain is Convinced I've fucked up bad this time and someone has come to finally call me out, haha...

But mm even though it's stressful it's so much more rewarding to know that people are seeing (even enjoying!) what I'm doing, so even though I usually either take ages to reply back or never do at all, that doesn't mean the reply was unwanted! I always end up explaining this over and over to new people but putting it in a sticky would definitely make it clearer... n.n;;
oldtoadwoman: Sam Winchester, Supernatural 14x17 (Fear from Inside Out)

Re: friends

[personal profile] oldtoadwoman 2019-01-13 04:02 am (UTC)(link)
Yeah, it's like every time my boss says, "Can I see you for a minute?" my brain instantly goes, "Oh, God, I'm getting fired!" Every. Single. Time. I haven't been fired from a job since I was seventeen, yet that's the first thing I assume whenever my boss wants to talk to me.
22degreehalo: The main characters of The Shape of Water, coloured like they're on an alien planet. (strange)

Re: friends

[personal profile] 22degreehalo 2019-01-13 05:33 am (UTC)(link)
Yyyyyyup. Got alerted to a bad school thing out of the blue once in my uni email and every time afterwards I'd feel super stressed checking it, even though I knew that thing couldn't happen again. :/

It's the worst when it comes out of nowhere, but as a result my brain is constantly trying to make sure any bad comments aren't unexpected by... convincing me the comment is going to be bad every time I get one?? which uh definitely makes the worst cases less bad but it also makes every other case WAY MORE bad lol great job there, brain. :/
silveradept: A kodama with a trombone. The trombone is playing music, even though it is held in a rest position (Default)

Re: friends

[personal profile] silveradept 2019-01-13 06:51 am (UTC)(link)
I also have those things, although slightly more practically in the sense that one of my bosses probably did want to fire me, so the dread part was more real. But that boss hasn't been with Teh Organization for years now. Trauma-induced pathways are tough to overwrite, I guess.

Solidarity on that.
22degreehalo: Castiel from Supernatural dressed up like a bee (bright)

Re: friends

[personal profile] 22degreehalo 2019-01-13 07:14 am (UTC)(link)
Mm. n.n;; But: communication! Can definitely improve things, or at least make things clearer so people don't get super offended and think you dislike them when really you're just overly anxious, haha;;
silveradept: A kodama with a trombone. The trombone is playing music, even though it is held in a rest position (Default)

Re: friends

[personal profile] silveradept 2019-01-13 07:23 am (UTC)(link)
Yes. When I remember to communicate, it helps me not be a ball of anxiety! And actually someone people might like being around.
silveradept: A kodama with a trombone. The trombone is playing music, even though it is held in a rest position (Default)

Re: friends

[personal profile] silveradept 2019-01-13 06:53 am (UTC)(link)
Yes, please, have something on your profiles or stickies about how you react to other people. (I think I've hybridized mine between a sticky post about commenting culture in my space and my profile, but it's all there in both of those documents.) It will be so much easier for people lurking around to go "Oh, this person is going to be someone I talk to in comments some first, and then there may be subscriptions and access later" than to have to wonder whether I'm being seen as a stalker for having subscribed.
oldtoadwoman: Sam Winchester, Supernatural 14x17 (Luke and Leia)

Re: friends

[personal profile] oldtoadwoman 2019-01-13 07:13 am (UTC)(link)
When I first started using Dreamwidth I didn't have a sticky post or any info in my profile. I didn't even list interests. In my mind, "Oh, I'm boring, no one will care." And it didn't really occur to me how hard I was making it for other people to interact with me. Which, now that I think of it, kind of describes my life. Can I get a do-over? I feel like if I could re-set to 18 and start again, I'd almost have a handle on life. Almost.
silveradept: A kodama with a trombone. The trombone is playing music, even though it is held in a rest position (Default)

Re: friends

[personal profile] silveradept 2019-01-13 07:24 am (UTC)(link)
If only I knew then what I know now, but it still took other people talking about those things before I decided they might be a good idea and started doing them.
teigh_corvus: ([Art] Persephone)

[personal profile] teigh_corvus 2019-01-13 02:43 am (UTC)(link)
There's always a possibility for a friending meme at the end of Snowflake. It's happened in the past, after the last challenge. So maybe this challenge will end up requiring less research. :D
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[personal profile] spikedluv 2019-01-13 03:13 pm (UTC)(link)
Great idea! (And we will be having our now-annual Friending Meme right after this round of Snowflake, so hopefully a lot of people take you up on this one!)